Why You Shouldn't Be Upset You're Still Single for the Holidays

The holidays are approaching and you're thinking...you may not get a kiss under the mistletoe this year. You may not have someone to do cute matching sweaters or onsies with. You may not have that special someone coming to spend time with your family around the thanksgiving table this year. You may not get any presents from that special person. You may not have any special guy to have on your arm to escort you to that holiday party everyone is going to. And let me tell you something... that is okay.

It's holiday season which means lots of incoming pictures of couples, movies about love, finding that "Christmas miracle" random mistletoes coming up out of nowhere, and if you're older, avoiding one of the many questions dreaded by many singles when family comes to visit "Anyone special in your life?"

I feel for ya ladies. I'm there with y'all. I just want to remind you ladies that there is nothing wrong with you. Sure it's going to feel lonely, you're going to feel like you're missing out and that you're behind while everyone is ahead but don't allow your loneliness in a season to settle for less than what you deserve. Instead be glad you're not with the wrong person at the wrong time. There are people who are still in certain relationships but they are unsatisfied. Some are even in relationships they are not supposed to be in.

So don't look to others' relationships and use it to make you feel bad about the fact that you haven't found that one by now but rather thank God that He doesn't just give you to anyone. Instead He is SAVING you. While He has you in PROTECTION, He is also in PRODUCTION. If I could be real, many of us are asking God to uncover us in a season where we are supposed to be HIDDEN. Love, God has you hidden for a purpose. Be comfortable with being hidden. Learn to be okay that it's just not the right time. God's got a plan with where you are the same way He has a plan with you meeting the one He has for you.

Don't let the pressures of the world cause you to think that you're bound to have a lousy holiday if you're not with someone you can call yours.That's not all what the holidays are about. When you find yourself discouraged this holiday season, remember there are still many things you could look forward to doing this upcoming holiday that will also benefit you in the future:

• Offer to help out with cooking holiday meals

• Offer to set the table

• Learn some holiday recipes

• Plan a family event and watch movies together

• go out and pick a Christmas tree with your friends and family

• Offer to help with the holiday decorations

• Offer to help with the holiday shopping and gift wrapping

• Learn and offer to help with budgeting when it comes to getting house decorations and food for meals

• Learn and observe on how to be a hostess at holiday dinners and family events

• Look for opportunities to give to those around you and to people who are unfortunate this holiday

Use this as a time to connect and grow close with your family and loved ones. Use this as preparation for the time when that special person comes into your life and he proves he belongs in your life. Use this time to prepare for when you will have a family. Use this time to reject the pressures of the world and come to know your worth in Jesus. Choose to be joyful this holiday season.

So stop moping. Stop the hallmark movie marathons. Stop the pity parties. Don't miss the small but great and effective highlights of this season in singleness. Be sure to spend time with your loved ones. Make memories that you'll be happy you didn't miss out on. Spend the holidays with joy knowing that it won't always be like this, that soon you'll get to spend the holidays with the one God created for you.

Be at peace that God knows your heart while He is protecting and preparing it. Be content with where you are in the season. Hang in there ladies and be hopeful because He is faithful. He is able and will give you a man that will make you realize that those lonely holidays were worth it. I'm here with ya ladies. From the bottom of my heart I hope you realize your worth enough to wait for God to send the right man to find you. Be grateful and be hopeful.

Happy holidays loves!