When Valentine's Day Makes You Feel as if You're Waiting in Vain

With Valentine's day approaching, I know it can be hard when you see other couples together, when your friends are getting in new relationships and you're the odd ball out. It can be hard seeing engagement photos and watching friends get married when you desire love as well. Be happy for them anyway. Don't give into bitterness. Being happy for others will not delay your blessing, it will make you appreciate yours when you receive it.

Because guys weren't looking my way, I thought that no guy would ever like me. I've never been kissed and I've never been in a relationship. I thought something was wrong with me. It took time to see that that was far from the truth.

I've learned to be content in this because I knew that God was saving me for someone special. I've grown to learn that it's not my time to be found. I am being hidden for a reason; I am being protected.

You may think that no one notices or desires you. It can be easy to feel as if God has forgotten about you. I'm here to tell you please don't believe in this lie.

You are not overlooked; you are being protected. You are loved and worth so much to the Lord that He wouldn't just give you to anyone and wouldn't let just anyone have you.

Why your last relationship didn't work out, God was protecting you. Why that guy you were interested in didn't feel the same way, God was protecting you. Don't think what from, just give thanks that He did.

Think of yourself like a portrait and God is the artist. As He's putting on the finishing touches, He takes His time making sure He gets everything right just how He imagined it. If anything that doesn't belong touches the portrait, it's damaged. He is bringing you through a needed process and doesn't want anything to disrupt or ruin it. Don't neglect or rush the process. Embrace it. He's fixing what needs to be fixed. It's going to take some time, but the finished product will be beautiful.

"Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord." ~Psalms 27:14

I know the wait seems long, as if it's never going to be your turn and that you'll never find someone but be strong and wait in Him darling. Put the desires of your heart in the hands of the Lord and watch Him fulfill them. If you give them to Him, you're in good hands.

The book, Songs of Solomon, is known as the book of love. In it this verse is repeated, "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." meaning, love should not be rushed. Awakening love when it's not ready is like starting a fire that will be hard to put out later.

Don't be in such a hurry for a season that hasn't arrived yet. God has you right where He wants you. Focus on the plans He has for you in your current season. Be patient and let the right things come at the right time, His time.

So don't be ashamed that you've never gotten your first kiss. Don't be ashamed that you're the only one in your circle that hasn't been in a relationship. Don't be ashamed because you chose to wait until one leads to marriage. There is beauty in that. God has something special for you that'll be worth the wait. Trust Him.

Don't let an Americanized holiday get you down in the dumps. Don't fall into the trap of pity parties and loneliness. Don't let society tell you what love is. Don't settle, God loves you too much for you to go through that. Whether you're interested in someone and waiting for them to see your worth or you've given up and think that there's no chance for you, know and remember that your worth is not found in the interest of a man or a relationship status. Your worth is in Who you belong to and His love for you.

So ladies, don't chase anyone. Know you are worth being pursued and worth waiting and praying for. Pursue God and He will bring you to a man that will pursue you the right way. Allow God to give you a heart after His own before He gives you a man after yours.

Love you women of God, God bless!