Valentine's Day Reminder

I remember when being a little kid, Valentine's day was just a day of heart shaped cupcakes, paper cards and sugary candy. Growing up since then, that shifted. The people around me focused the holiday so much on relationships, love, and lustful sex that I let the idea of neededing someone to love me enter my heart, blinding me from the truth. Whether valentine or no valentine this year, I just wanted to share with you some things I learned that I am still learning today but changed my perspective on love forever once I took them in.

"Love is Patient.." ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4

Patience; the word everyone cringes to. Us humans, we like having things in our control. We rather have things our way but here's a little secret if you didn't know; the best things come to those that WAIT. Let's be real, no one likes waiting but things take time in order to fall into place. Just because everyone is in a relationship, doesn't mean you have to be in one too.

When we rush things, we see that they usually don't turn out good, or in other words, the way we planned them to. So don't rush into something that you are not ready for because relationships are more than just dates, cute pictures, and weddings. They are gifts from God to be with the person He has designed for you and they require work. Like my folks would always tell me when I was younger, you have your whole life ahead of you, just be patient. Better than to wait for a relationship that will last than to be in a relationship that will sink and fall.

"..no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless." ~Psalm 84:11

I know sometimes it may feel as if God has forgotten you, but those are the times where you have to cling on onto him with trust and see that that is not true. Would God keep something good from you? No. God has someone out there just for you. God has your best interests at heart; He knows what you want, he knows what you like, but He also knows what you NEED and what is GOOD for you. Like a father, He wants the best for His son and He wants the best for His daughter. If you serve the best God, why not deserve the best? Walk with God, and He will give you someone to walk that same path with you.

"Daughters (and sons), do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." ~ Song of Solomon 8:4

Love should happen naturally. If you have to force feelings on someone, chances are they are not the person for you, no matter how "perfect" they may seem. Just pushing love onto someone will only cause you chasing them, leaving you with unsatisfaction, confusion and hurt. Sometimes when we see someone we're interested in, we tend to go straight to the dating and/or the thought of marriage and skip the friendship - the most important part before getting into a relationship because when you concentrate on being friends, you're getting to know the person, building a bond with them while waiting on God to see what He will bring along the way without any expectations. Don't go looking for love, but let love find you.

So don't be down because no one is giving you flowers, a box of chocolates, love letters, or a teddy bear. That does not signify love. Love is when God sent His son to die on the cross for us as a way to be close to Him. He thought you were worth dying for. You are beautiful, loved, & worthy to be pursued. You are already loved & pursued by the Living God, and that should already be enough.

If you haven't found that special person yet, don't worry. God will give you that special person when the time is right. Know that you are worth waiting & praying for. Never forget that your true worth is in Christ and you shouldn't settle for less. Even if you have been in a few relationships before and they've left you with broken hearts, God STILL has someone for you. Someone who will love you like Jesus loves you, someone who respects you, someone who cares for you, and most importantly someone who will encourage you on your walk with God.

And remember, Valentine's day is just a holiday. Valentine's day shouldn't be the only day to tell or show someone you love them, that should be everyday. God won't just give you someone, He will give you a lifetime partner. So be strong, take heart & continue to spread love to those that mean the most to you. I wish you guys lots of abundant love and happy Valentine's day!