The Beauty in Waiting

The world says if you're not in a relationship, you aren't worth anything and you're wasting your life away. The world says to date around and see what you like because you're not getting any younger; that being in a relationship is in, and being single is totally out. But do you know what God says? God says you are worth it, you are precious to Him. God says "seek Me and My kingdom and you will find everything you need. (Matthew 6:33).

Now, patience seems to be the last thing on people's to do list. What we want, we want it now whether it's good or not. But as children of God, we can't afford anything that's not good for us, or in this case, our hearts.

I'm currently single, but it's amazing what God has and is continually revealing to me. Talking with my mom one day, she said something that I could never forget. She told me, "Things will turn out fine but for right now, you are at a time of learning and observing." The moment she told me this, it opened my eyes and everything clicked.

I realized that I would constantly worry that I didn't have anyone in my life (I mean who doesn't?), looking at other relationships saying things like, "When is it my turn God?". But overtime I prayed that He would remove that feeling inside of me and help me not focus too much on a season that I'm not in yet.

I began to look for things that I liked and started to put them into use, such as getting back to reading books, learn how to cook my favorite foods, take up a new sport of cleaning (yes, it's a thing trust me), started devotions and prayer time, and lots of other things that I enjoyed! I invested time into the things that would keep my focus on God rather than other things.

"Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while waiting."

Most of the time, we're not just ready and that's okay. Accept that there is a lot to learn while you're patiently waiting for the person God has for you. You have a decision and a chance to take your singleness season as a learning season. The world treats singleness as a disease, when it's really not unless you make it seem like it is.

Instead of complaining, what are you doing during the season of unexpected patience? I found that when you occupy yourself, you find less time complaining. Invest yourself into things that matter and that will benefit you in the future whether it'd be reading books, cooking, serving at a local church, volunteering, investing in family and friends, strengthening your gifts and talents, furthering your education, and etc.

The season of singleness is a time for self-improvement. God is preparing, molding & shaping you into the beautiful creation He designed you to be. While in the season of waiting, you get to know more about your inner self, your likes and dislikes, your strengths and weaknesses; working on your attitudes and character, but most importantly working on developing your relationship with the Lord.

You're waiting, now what?

Like the story of Abraham, God told Him he would be the father of many nations and that Sarah would give birth to a child at old age. Sarah saw that many years had passed and yet, no baby. So she decided to help God, telling Abraham to sleep with one of His servant women, Hagar, to have a child faster (child named Ishmael). That wasn't God's plan but He was still faithful and Sarah later gave birth to a baby boy, Issac (through whom Abraham's descendants will be counted from).

What I am trying to say here is that when it comes to God's plan, there's no need to rush things. He doesn't need our help, He is in control! All you have to do is trust Him. It takes more than just waiting on God, but also trusting in God. No matter how long the wait may be, know that God is faithful. Whether it's in His will for you to be in a relationship, married or not, He is still faithful. Trust that He knows what He is doing, and that He is faithful just as He was to Abraham and Sarah. "Then Abraham waited patiently, and he received what God had promised." (Hebrews 6:15) You are not only growing, but you are also learning to trust God as He makes you into something beautiful in due season.

People may look down on you because you're choosing to wait rather than to just jump into the dating pool, but don't let that get to you. Focus on God and the reason why you chose to wait and you'll see that the single season isn't all that bad; it's actually a blessing.

I get that it's hard, especially for some ladies but hang in there, cling onto the Lord and trust that He knows exactly what you need and when you need it. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding." (Proverbs 3:5) You are being prepared to be blessing, for a blessing.

Dear Lord,

thank you for the season You have put us in because we know that there is always a purpose in every season and we pray that You fulfill it. We pray that we find contentment in the season of waiting and trusting in You to bring the right person in our lives when it is time. May we grow closer and deeper in You, resting in Your faithfulness that You will provide. :In Your name we pray, Amen.